tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5776371729093063259.post5211881854752862823..comments2014-06-30T04:35:14.598-07:00Comments on jmedvm: Finding Meaning in Mortality (thank you Daddy)jmedvmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17803252480400920174noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5776371729093063259.post-79020187067383944112009-08-20T22:59:45.430-07:002009-08-20T22:59:45.430-07:00Dear Jaime,
Thank you for your comments. I would ...Dear Jaime,<br /><br />Thank you for your comments. I would love to read your blogpost about when your cat died. Please let me know when you do post it.<br /><br />That's awesome that you're going to be the forum moderator for pet loss and euthanasia issues for About.com. I should check it out. Two of my friends recently lost their cat and are devastated. They said I was one of the few people who understood their grief. <br /><br />I understand because of the death of my cat. When I went to pick up her ashes at the vet's, I almost lost it. I'll never forget the kindness of the vet in sitting with me while I cried my heart out. <br /><br />I agree completely that there should be a mourning period allowance for people who've lost their beloved pets!Cheryl Chowhttp://www.realityntails.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5776371729093063259.post-62738007422800800532009-08-20T11:43:40.533-07:002009-08-20T11:43:40.533-07:00Dear Cheryl, I really appreciate you writing about...Dear Cheryl, I really appreciate you writing about the effect reading this had for you. I know we definantly have things to teach each other and I feel blessed to have the chance to correspond with you. You have inspired me to work on a blogpost about my excruciating, paralyzing grief when my closest friend MY cat died. I have eleven cats now; some left over when my cat practice closed, yet that grief from the absence of the one is untouched. It is still there. Coincidentally, the day you posted this, I agreed to be a Forum Moderator for Pet Loss and Euthanasia issues for About.com to help the Vet Med general Moderator. She needs help because PET LOSS ISSUES ARE THE MOST UTILIZED BOARD so, we are not alone. I will write a lot more on this; I have been thinking about it for fourteen years and need to share what I have learned. I think I will post this on my hospice4animal site too. <br /><br />I am sorry about the loss of your Dad. I agree with you, the best legacy you can have is to proceed to live your life to honor his memory.<br /><br />One thing that strikes me to tell you is that animals,our pets, represent true unconditional love. When a beloved pet dies, in contrast to a relative, there is no baggage to dilute the grief. No matter how close you are to your parent or sibling, there are always complicated struggles and unfinished emotions that interfere with pure missing that person (in my own experience). There is also ongoing loss and a true feeling, for me, of being verify and very very empty as we try to proceed with normal life without any real way to celebrate the contribution or acknowledge the hole in your life that is left. Our soceity has not evolved to the point we allow the validation of that loss though our pets are equal in status emotionally as children. Part of the motivation for my writing about end of life issues for animals is to recognize and elevate our pets' status in our soceity; to acknowledge what already is. You have given me the idea that there should be a mourning period and allowances given the pet owner just as of a family member has died ...because one has.<br /><br />Thank you Cheryl! xxxjmedvmjmedvmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17803252480400920174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5776371729093063259.post-48571090857346943212009-08-19T21:59:02.306-07:002009-08-19T21:59:02.306-07:00Thank you for your thoughtful post. I've been ...Thank you for your thoughtful post. I've been meaning to post a comment for some time, but life seems to be full of distractions. I only seem to have enough focus to tweet.<br /><br />Anyway, I've been reviewing my relationship with my own father, who has passed away. I miss him of course, but there's more to it than that. It's certainly made me think about my own mortality--something I hadn't given much heed to before. My cat's passing was my first real, terrible encounter with death. So much that was precious is lost...unless I do something, unless I show through my own actions that they still live through me. So much to ponder. It seems I can barely articulate my thoughts. <br /><br />CherylCheryl Chowhttp://www.realityntails.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5776371729093063259.post-61968777087075188672009-05-13T12:00:00.000-07:002009-05-13T12:00:00.000-07:00I continue to learn more about my own mortality as...I continue to learn more about my own mortality as I go through more physical problems/surgeries. Many writers have written about the paradox of becoming wiser as you get older,wishing you knew then with a young body what you know now,etc. I also was an endurance athlete;competing where girls had not gone before. I can also learn to push for what I need to do now with the Eal I had then; to learn from my young self as well. Brian cubann's Blog today made me remember that writing my book(s) should be just as much as an identity minute by minute as opening my first business was. Nothing would deter me and I kept it open first in my life to the point I almost LOST my life ignoring the illness in my body. Now I have to have that zeal bit also must integrate the mind/body integration. I can not leave one part behind and expect the other to work alone. This is what positive visualization is about for the athlete. This is what it is about for me as I struggle to get stronger. I need to eat and drink(water I mean!) to fuel the body to heal and give mind food for thought:fight to keep the IQ going(will re committ to the piano calling my name upstairs music is healing;brain reconnecting),to write with the passion I had to open my Just Cats!jmedvmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17803252480400920174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5776371729093063259.post-76321657275116716702009-05-05T02:24:00.000-07:002009-05-05T02:24:00.000-07:00staying sober for 30 years is an admirable accompl...staying sober for 30 years is an admirable accomplishment,and to beat the terrible disease of addiction one day at a time is something that sure would/does make your mother proud of her son. all the animals you comfort are also blessed by all you give them and return blessings to you. animals,like prayer,do not exist in the past or future,just the now. thank you for your prayers.jmedvmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17803252480400920174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5776371729093063259.post-65799587604006074872009-05-04T17:22:00.000-07:002009-05-04T17:22:00.000-07:00your dad seems like a wonderful man and you a wond...your dad seems like a wonderful man and you a wonderful daughter we all think about ourselves and our parents you dont want to know about mine i was a drunk since i was 13yr now at 60 i have been sober for 30 i wish i was when my mom was alive i went through chemo and radiation and drank also i was a mess i got it together after her death i am sure it was my cancer and drinking that help it along and that i am sorry for i know her prayers for me were heard by God i wish i was able to pray like she did maybe one day i will be able torich waltersnoreply@blogger.com